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What does it mean to Reconcile?
This is a big one for me and maybe I struggle with this one the most. It's likely why it is taking me so long to write it.
Questions I ask myself. Should I go back to this person and make sure we are good? Or should I not?
Am I trying to forgive merely for my own benefit to put myself at a different light? Where is my place? To be honest I feel like I have more questions than answers here and there are no easy answers.
Forgiveness and reconciliation is a difficult process and in some cases it may almost make things worse then better. It may also go the other way to. Keep that in mind when things start going ruff.
I look at in light of my own life and how from the start it looked like a huge mountain I could and would never get over. Satan wants you to think that and to believe the lie that you will never get over this.
That is a lie from the pit of hell. Satan is at the beginning and end of that statement and he can't wait for you to just simply give in to it and live in seclusion, hurt, and pain the rest of your life. In all that there is GOOD NEWS and that is Jesus Christ. He came and died so that we could find freedom.
In my last blog post I talked about Courage. That's really truly where it starts. It takes courage to step out and try and reconcile with the one who has hurt you or the one maybe you have hurt.
From the point of view of the offended the first step is to grow a genuine love for the offender. Not just a simple love, but agape love(selfless, sacrificial, and unconditional love). It is only God given. It's the type of love that God talked about in 1 Corinthians 13 and in this area I want to point out especially the end of verse 4 to 7: "love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
This is only the beginning but as we practice genuine forgiveness, it not only becomes easy but it becomes a way of life. This also makes it easier for you to resolve problems in your present relationships, which makes them ultimately healthier and happier.
This chart lays it out so clearly how genuine and false forgiveness works, and the benefits of doing it God's way. It just didn't work in a normal paragraph form.
May you strive everyday to reconcile where you need to reconcile, and forgive where you need to forgive, ask for forgiveness where you have wronged, and live in the freedom that only Christ offers.
What does it mean to Reconcile?
This is a big one for me and maybe I struggle with this one the most. It's likely why it is taking me so long to write it.
Questions I ask myself. Should I go back to this person and make sure we are good? Or should I not?
Am I trying to forgive merely for my own benefit to put myself at a different light? Where is my place? To be honest I feel like I have more questions than answers here and there are no easy answers.
Forgiveness and reconciliation is a difficult process and in some cases it may almost make things worse then better. It may also go the other way to. Keep that in mind when things start going ruff.
I look at in light of my own life and how from the start it looked like a huge mountain I could and would never get over. Satan wants you to think that and to believe the lie that you will never get over this.
That is a lie from the pit of hell. Satan is at the beginning and end of that statement and he can't wait for you to just simply give in to it and live in seclusion, hurt, and pain the rest of your life. In all that there is GOOD NEWS and that is Jesus Christ. He came and died so that we could find freedom.
In my last blog post I talked about Courage. That's really truly where it starts. It takes courage to step out and try and reconcile with the one who has hurt you or the one maybe you have hurt.
From the point of view of the offended the first step is to grow a genuine love for the offender. Not just a simple love, but agape love(selfless, sacrificial, and unconditional love). It is only God given. It's the type of love that God talked about in 1 Corinthians 13 and in this area I want to point out especially the end of verse 4 to 7: "love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
This is only the beginning but as we practice genuine forgiveness, it not only becomes easy but it becomes a way of life. This also makes it easier for you to resolve problems in your present relationships, which makes them ultimately healthier and happier.
This chart lays it out so clearly how genuine and false forgiveness works, and the benefits of doing it God's way. It just didn't work in a normal paragraph form.
Genuine Forgiveness
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VS.
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False Forgiveness
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Takes responsibility for their own life
and mistakes
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-
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Blames others and avoids being blamed at
all costs
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Is quick to participate in an ongoing,
gradual forgiveness process
|
-
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Looks for instant quick fixes to any
problem
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Seeks Healing and restoration
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-
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Tries to escape punishment or
consequences
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Addresses the situation courageously
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-
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Pretends, ignores the problem, denial
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Empowers
|
-
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Wants approval from anybody
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Clarifies and honors healthy boundaries
|
-
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Disregards and blurres healthy boundaries
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Allows God to work in his/her life at His
will
|
-
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Works only for a sense of self
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Lives in freedom and peace
|
-
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Is locked in a cycle of victimization
|
May you strive everyday to reconcile where you need to reconcile, and forgive where you need to forgive, ask for forgiveness where you have wronged, and live in the freedom that only Christ offers.
"God demonstrated His love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners Christ died for us"
"the prisoner you really free when you forgive is you"
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